Learning How to Budget

Most of my life, I’ve relied on my parents for money, but once I moved out on my own, I was responsible for doing that myself. Now, I’m not saying that they wouldn’t help me if I needed it… of course they would. I’ve just learned to take care of it myself and here’s how.

Wants vs Needs

Going shopping when you’re responsible for budgeting for yourself is hard to get used to. You really have to know what you need and what you just want. An important step in this journey for me was to learn that if it wasn’t necessary, it could wait. If I didn’t have the money to buy it right off the bat and it wasn’t something that I absolutely needed, it could wait. Most of the time, if you wait just a little bit, you forget about it anyways.

Learn to Say No

As with most things, it is important to get into the habit of saying no. Say no to things that you can’t afford to do. You don’t have to go out and spend money to have a good time.

Learn to Host

If you want to have fun with friends, do it on your own terms. Buy cheap wine or cheap beer and have a good time doing whatever you want to do at your own house. It’s way cheaper than going out, and it might even be more fun.

Write it Down

An important thing that has helped me is that I write my budget down on paper and track every cent that I spend.

All in all, focus on what is truly necessary but remember to treat yourself every now and then.

Stay Golden,

Emily

You Can Call Me a 20-Something Grandma, But…

You can call me a 20-something grandma, but…

I’m just responsible.

I feel as if my life is more than going out and drinking every night of the weekend. Budgeting money is important. I do not want to go out and spend more money than is necessary. I’d rather have a girl’s night at my place; drinking wine and relaxing.

I just care about my health.

I hate feeling hungover, but it’s more than just that… I care about my mental health. I’d prefer to spend my free time working on me and my relationships with my friends and family since the rest of my time is spent on school.

I just don’t care.

I don’t care what you think about me. I’m living the life that I want with the people that I love and I would never give that up for anything. If you have a problem with me and the way I live my life, well quite frankly, I don’t care.

I’m me, I like the way I am, and that’s all that matters.

Don’t let anyone make you feel bad about yourself and as always…

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

You’re Not Alone: Mental Illness in College Students

College is generally thought of as the best years of your life. You get to branch out and do all of the things that you think could interest you. You join club after club, organization after organization, but have you ever thought about how these years of your life cause you mental pain?

Anxiety disorders, being the most prevalent mental health disorders in college students, are on the rise in this population (11.9% of college students have an anxiety disorder).

Depression is also up there at 7-9% of college students.

Around 3.2% of college students show symptoms of Bipolar Disorder.

It is unsurprising, then, that college students take part in dangerous activities to decrease their mental health symptoms. For example, many college students take part in binge drinking or illicit drug use.

If you have recently been diagnosed with a mental health disorder in college, you are not alone. College is the time of many changes. All of these changes can affect you and increase your mental health problems. These things include making your own decisions (especially when you are indecisive), moving away from family, spreading yourself too thin with all of your activities and studies, not allowing yourself adequate relaxation, and not eating healthy and exercising.

College is hard, but it is especially hard when you are suffering from a mental illness. Seek help if you feel that it is too hard. Make sure that you are also making lifestyle adjustments to help with your mental health as well.

All in all, you can most definitely manage it, but it will be a long, hard road.

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

Source:

https://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC4527955/

 

Keeping a Relationship With God in College

I didn’t grow up in a crazy religious family. My family always kept me exposed to God, but we really didn’t go to church. And that’s OK! I do not feel like church is central to having beliefs or to living a Godly life. My parents are some of the most respectful and giving people I know.

When I went off to college, I was really scared, but that didn’t stop me from having a relationship with God. It is completely possible, even with the busy college lifestyle.

First and foremost, I surrounded myself with a faith-bearing community. A lot of my friends are God-fearing, and that made it easy. From a lot of my roommates to a Christian Service Sorority, I found myself surrounded by love and support from Godly women.

Also, I made sure to set aside time to have a devotional daily, or at least weekly. Whether this was by myself or with other people, I made sure to keep this a main part of my life. Now for me, it was unrealistic to expect myself to find time every day, so I made it a point to have a devotional at least weekly. My favorite daily devotionals come from the app: The First Five. It is an amazing app to give you devotionals that you can relate to, and they are easy to understand.

Online Sermons are available when you can’t find a church that is right for you. It is okay to be wary of churches. It is okay to search for the right one, but in the meantime, make sure to keep up with your favorite online sermons.

All in all, it is very important to keep up with your faith no matter what, and it is feasible.

Stay Golden,

Emily

What It’s Like to Unplug For a Weekend

Okay, so this is super overdue, but forgive me on that one. Over the first weekend of Spring Break, I stayed off of my phone and social media. I still got on my laptop to do homework and study (because let’s face it… I can never catch “break” in Pharmacy School without homework or something to study). So here I am to tell you how it felt.

Friday. Friday, being the first day, was hard. Every time I opened the internet, I feel like I started to go to Facebook. After the first few hours, it was good though. I went to dinner with my parents and then we watched a movie and were able to spend some quality time together. I was already feeling as if I didn’t need my phone to be happy, and that it was much better to spend QUALITY time with the people I am around. I’ve always thought it was rude to be on your phone constantly when you plan to hang out with someone, but even I do it sometimes. It’s a bad habit, but it’s one I’m trying to correct.

Saturday. Saturday was a lot easier. My mom used to always get mad at me when we would go shopping and I would be on my phone constantly. It was really nice to spend a day shopping with her and truly focus on what we were doing. I’m starting to really understand why it upsets her for me to be on my phone. She wants to spend as much QUALITY time as possible with me while I’m home from school. After shopping, we watched another movie with my dad, and then, we went to bed. It was a pretty eventful day, and I didn’t find myself reaching for my phone as much as I did Friday.

Sunday. On Sunday, I was getting pretty used to having my phone, but I had to turn it back on to respond to someone about them potentially purchasing a laptop that I had for sale. After that, I still didn’t use my phone a whole lot, but I did respond to some friends who had not heard from me all weekend.

All in all, I feel that it was a really good experience. I would highly recommend it to anyone who feels like they are on their phones too much. It was a nice cleanse, and now, I keep my phone on Do Not Disturb mode so that I only get my notifications when I look at my phone, and it doesn’t vibrate and disturb whatever task I have going on. However, when someone calls me, it goes through because I know they really wanted to get my attention and it was something that couldn’t really wait.

I hope you guys decide to try this out for yourself, you won’t regret it.

Stay Golden,

Emily

Helpful Apps for All College Students

Here’s a list of the apps that I feel are the most useful for college students. Enjoy!

Quizlet. For all of your flashcard needs, Quizlet is the best. I’m sure that you’ve all heard of it, so download it. It has the feature to test you on the words that you put into it.

Tapingo. If your school is set up with this company, it’s the best thing in the world. You can skip the lines and order your food ahead of time from the dining places on campus. They also partner with other places around the city to give you more dining options.

GroupMe. Ever try to set up a group chat with someone who doesn’t have an iPhone? It’s really hard to do because nobody can ever leave if they want to. GroupMe is a great alternative and I’ve used it for everything from friend group chats to group chats for group projects.

Uber/Lyft. Now, we can all admit college involves quite a bit of going out and drinking. Be safe and get a lift from someone when you don’t have a DD. These apps have very reasonable rates and they will even drive you to and from the airport if you need to go home and you live out of state.

BookScouter. If you’re looking to sell your textbooks, this app is great to find you the best selling price from several different sources. I’ve used it for 3 semesters now, and I swear by it. Your payment can either be through PayPal or a Live Check through the mail, but that way takes WAY longer so I would suggest PayPal.

Flipboard. Flipboard is the perfect place to get all the news that you want from any of your favorite topics. You can even block out stuff that you don’t want to see by choosing exactly what you do want to see. For example, I barely see anything bad on my news feed anymore, only stuff that interests me or is really important.

Headspace. If you don’t know how to meditate, you should try out this app to get a little bit of “head space”. It’s so helpful with your stress levels.

Achievement. You get points for every step you take a day, and after 10,000 points you can redeem it for $10. It does take a while to get your $10 but it can’t hurt.

Venmo. Ever owe someone money but have no cash? It is rare for someone to carry cash now, and Venmo is great for getting money or giving money quick and efficiently.

Mint. This is a free budgeting app that can hook up to all of your financial accounts. I absolutely love it.

SworkIt. Need to work out but don’t want to go to the gym? SworkIt has many  little workouts that will be useful for a busy college student.

XMind. This is a mindmap service for your phone or iPad. It is very useful for making quick mindmaps while you’re studying.

Google Drive. Keep all of your documents together on this cloud service. I love Google Drive for all of my notes.

Hope all of these help you in your college journey!

Let me know if you have any other suggestions for apps, I’d love to hear them!

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

Spring Break

So… my spring break just ended and let me tell you, it was REALLY nice. I spent half of the time at home with my family and half of the time at the beach (as I’m sure you’ve picked up, I LOVE THE BEACH). Anyways, it was really nice to get away from the stress of pharmacy school for a little while. I really enjoyed my time with my family. It’s literally the best. I’ve missed them so much since I’ve moved into my apartment, and I’m so glad to get times like this with them.

Spending time with my family is one of the things that I find most relaxing and makes me the happiest. I know that I’m going to be one of those moms that always brings the kids over for Sunday dinner at the grandparents’ house. I couldn’t live without my family.

I can’t wait for what the rest of the semester has in store for me. So far, I’ve been doing pretty well. This was a much-needed break to get myself back into the mind frame that I can do this. I’ve been pretty stressed lately, and being away from school for a little while brought back some much-needed motivation to make it through the rest of the semester.

I’ve been getting really sick lately because of the stress of school. It really sucks tbh. I just can’t wait to be done with the next 3 years of hard work so that I can get on to what I’ve wanted to do essentially for as long as I can remember.

In the coming weeks, there is a lot of stuff going on. I’m planning a hiking trip with my family, going to 2 formals, having spa days with friends, and preparing for the rest of my weekly exams as well as finals.

I’m going to be a busy girl, but it’s time to get started on the rest of the semester. Here’s to finishing my first year of Pharmacy School off strong.

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

 

Avoiding Burnout

If you’re an overachiever like me, burnout is probably your middle name. I’ve always put too much on my plate and it is really really hard to get yourself to breathe and take a step back. Here’s what has been working for me this semester on how to avoid burning out (especially in Pharmacy School).

Learn when to say yes and when to say no. I mean it. I’m an overachiever so I know how hard it is to say no to things that you want to do (or other people want you to do). It’s important to prioritize important things above others. This way, you make sure you don’t burn out. Say no to the things that aren’t important in growing you as a person, making you happy, and your career.

Pamper yourself. Okay, so I had to throw this one in. I absolutely LOVE a pamper night. My favorite thing to do after a long day is have a relaxing bubble bath and put on a face mask. It is so relaxing and honestly, it’s one of the main things that help me avoid burnout.

Do things that you enjoy and remember to take breaks. It is OKAY to take breaks. It is OKAY to go hang out with friends. It is OKAY to do something fun. You will not survive college without burnout if you do not do things that you enjoy.

Set reasonable goals and stick to them. You can’t expect yourself to stick to goals that are unreasonable. Also, you need to make sure that your goals are focused.

Take a break from social media. I’m not saying every day, but it will definitely be a good idea to take a break from social media. It’s crazy how much a social media cleanse will help your mental health. I’ve done two so far.

Stay organized. Organization is the key to success in all areas of your life. Keeping an organized life means keeping an organized mind.

Do something to free your mind every day. This can be anything. Journalling, meditation, devotion, etc. Personally, I like to write down 3 good things about the day. This helps me stay thankful for everything good that is happening in my life and try to stop worrying about what isn’t going so well. I think it helps a lot, at least it helps me.

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

Little Gifts to Send to Your College Student

Here are just a few things that your college student would love to see come in the mail. I know if they’re anything like me, getting packages is one of the highlights of your day, always.

Letters- There’s nothing better than getting mail, and it doesn’t have to be anything big to mean the world to your student. The times that I have gotten letters and cards in the mail have always brought a smile to my face when I was having a hard day.

Homemade Food- Whether you cook or bake, or someone close to you does, try to make it a habit to send these little treats to your student or even just sending them back with the treats when they return to school after a break.

Hobby Materials- A lot of college students get crafty when they are stressed, but not everyone is that way. If you know your college student’s hobbies (i.e. working on puzzles, painting, coloring, playing sports), send them a little care package of things to help them pursue these things.

Flowers/ Fruit Baskets- There are so many different companies nowadays that deliver these kinds of things, so hopefully you will find one that is decently priced. If not, it’s okay, it’s the thought that counts.

Stickers/ Car & Laptop Decals- SO many of my friends love stickers and decals. We are constantly on RedBubble looking at all of the decals that we wish we could fill our laptop with. I know they would love to get a few of these in the mail from someone who cares about them, and they are pretty cheap.

Gift Cards- If there is a restaurant close by that they have been just raving about, see if you can get a gift card to it and send it their way. It would give them an opportunity to eat something other than campus food, and they’d be thinking about you the whole time.

Books- If your student loves to read, get them a book or two that they have been dying to try out, but if reading isn’t their favorite thing… maybe send a few inspirational books their way. I know for us 20-something females out there, there are PLENTY of options to choose from and I’m sure your college student hasn’t read them all.

Socks- Come on, all of our feet get cold, and we secretly (or not so secretly) LOVE us some socks. Fuzzy, designed, or just plain white… send us some socks and we will love them.

Seasonal Decor- Halloween, Christmas, Valentines… There are way more holidays than this, but here are just a few that you can send small decorations for. There’s nothing like coming back to a dorm/apartment that is decorated with decor sent by the ones you love.

Snacks- GIRL SCOUT COOKIES. Let me tell you, I wish every season was girl scout season. They would make a fortune off of me alone, and quite frankly… I wouldn’t even complain. I love getting snacks from my parents. They always send me back to school with something tasty.

Sickness Kits- As college students, we are sicker than most. We are in close proximity to each other so often and it is just going to happen. If we are sick, send us a sick care package with our go-to medications and remedies… maybe throw in a cute get well soon card to make our day better.

Beauty & Wellness Kits- This kinda goes with the sickness kit, but this one is geared to general wellness. Do they need a relaxing day? Send them a face mask that they absolutely adore.

Really… anything that gets your student feeling that you care enough to just send them a little something goes a long way.

Stay Golden,

Emily

 

 

If I Were A College Professor…

If I were a college professor…

I would grade in a timely fashion. This means exams would be graded within 2 days of the students taking them. Papers would be graded in a week. Quizzes within a day. Homework within a day. As a college student, I know how stressful it is to wait for your grades. If I assign it to get done, I should make time to grade it.

I would create study guides. Study guides are VERY helpful for students. No, it would not be the exact questions from the exam, but it would help them determine what concepts are important for the exam and what would not be. The information on the exam would reflect the information on the study guide… that’s only fair.

I would have test reviews. As a college student myself, I know that setting aside a review day before an exam is VERY helpful. It refreshes a student’s knowledge.

I would have grades be more than just exams. So many people are terrible test takers. I would have participation grades, quizzes, and homework in order to supplement the student’s grades.

I would give “make up” exams. Now, this may be a little controversial, but I think it would be great. As I stated before, so many students cannot take tests well. So… if the student requests it (and they have to request it) I would allow them a retake. However, the test would not be on paper. They would have to schedule an appointment with me and they would discuss the topics that were on the exam with me. If they showed that they understood the material, I would add half of their missed points to their exam. I mean, I know grades are important to a lot of students, and if they really did understand the material, why punish them?

 And I would CARE. The fact that so many of my college professors have been caring has helped me so much throughout my college experience. I mean… if you can tell that they care about you as a person, it’s so much easier to come to them with a question or to learn from them.

This is what I would do if I was a college professor since I’ve been in the students’ shoes.

As Always…

Stay Golden,

Emily